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The answers below were given by Bogdan Morar, clinical psychologist, psychotherapist and sexologist, but also creator of online content in the field of sex education.
When it comes to masturbation, go wild, but not in public
“What should be the process of masturbation for women, but also for men? And should it be otherwise than it is obvious?”
I notice that you used the word must twice . It must be a very interesting topic for you! The truth is that we don’t have to masturbate in a certain way, because there is no recipe for such a thing, so in that sense… you have a free hand (no pun intended).
You know, masturbation is great, a great way to get to know your body, figure out how it works and what buttons to push to generate waves of pleasure. And yet, it often feels like a taboo, even though everyone does it, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, or age. But if everyone does it, then why do we still shroud it in shame? Why do we still practice it in secret and why do we feel guilty afterwards? Look, maybe a must go here . We need to get rid of this toxic paradigm related to a completely natural and normal phenomenon. We must break free from the puritanical messages and beliefs about sex and pleasure that we have internalized.
Well, you would like to know what the masturbation process actually looks like, for both women and men. I repeat, there is no standard way, no particular technique of masturbation. Every man is different, and that means that masturbation styles also differ to some extent. But I can satisfy your curiosity by drawing some “helping lines”:
On the hygiene side , washing your hands before and after masturbation is something I strongly encourage. You don’t want to risk urinary infections or be the one who doesn’t wash their hands after a passionate session of self love.
Legally , masturbation is a private and personal activity. That means it’s your responsibility to make sure you do it in a private environment where you can be free. Public spaces are not … full text